Aaron and I watch the TV series "Parenthood". We just watched an episode where one of the children finds out he has Asbergers. My eyes filled up with tears. Have you had this moment where you have to explain to your child that something is different about them? Albeit beautiful. How did it go?
I know it's a long way off, but can we prepare for that? I try not to think about the future too much, because it makes me worry and there is no point to that. We take it a day at a time trusting the Lord, only look to the near future with faith and clarity that any future with Porter will be a spectacular gift. But I can't help myself from asking this.
I know it's a long way off, but can we prepare for that? I try not to think about the future too much, because it makes me worry and there is no point to that. We take it a day at a time trusting the Lord, only look to the near future with faith and clarity that any future with Porter will be a spectacular gift. But I can't help myself from asking this.
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Every time I see pictures of your precious little boy or when I read about the adorable things he does, I just get the happiest feeling!! He is truly a blessing from heaven!! You are such great parents and he is a very lucky little boy to have you!!
Hmmmm.... good question. I'm not sure how to answer it, except to say that each and every circumstance is different. I'm sure that some children figure it out for themselves, some are told by their parents, some are told by their peers and some may not even have the capacity to understand that they are different. Maybe they think that everyone is different? I would say that you just need to be conscious of his situation and his mental capacity to understand. When (and if) the time is right, he would most likely rather hear about his special gifts from his parents than from his peers. Or, he may not even care! :)
I have so much confidence and trust in you two, I know that you will know when the time is right and how to approach it. Ask daily for guidance and understanding that will help you know what's right for all of your children. :)
I saw this too and cried as well. Children with Ds do know they are different and I know at some point we will have this conversation with Luc. I would love to know how it went with older kids too. I guess it's just something we'll have to be prepared for. And like Randy said, I hope it's from me and not from his peers.
I watched this and wondered the same thing. Have no idea, but hope you get some good responses. Has been heavy on my mind.
Porter is such a smart boy with a sweet spirit I can't imagine him not dealing with anything spectacularly! You and Aaron are amazing parents he is lucky to have you there for him!
I think you're on the right track to not worry about it right now. You'll know when the time is right - and it will all work out!
I don't think there is a blueprint for this sort of thing. You can't underestimate the value of experience, so I hope more people comment that have gone through this, but I think everyone else has summed it up perfectly when they say you will know what is best for your family because every child is different.
For us it is a different aspect, but we knew the day would come with Brooklynn finding out she was adopted. For us we knew we didn't want "that day". I didn't want her growing up remembering that everything she thought wasn't real. So since she was a baby I would show her pictures and tell her stories about the day we went and picked her up. It has always been a part of her life. I love that she understands more now and doesn't think it is a bad thing. She even says the cutest thing. If we are talking about being pregnant or when one of the kids was in my belly she says. "Oh ya, I didn't grow in your belly. But after you got me- I fixed you and your belly works now." I love it, cause it is so true. She was meant to be part of our family. That is how we have dealt with our situation, but I know yours is different. Good luck and you will know the right thing to do. Someone told me as long as you do it with love and try that is all that matters, You can't love too much.
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